tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-863564811307869766.post941434348055000892..comments2023-10-19T08:50:37.033-07:00Comments on Truth And Love After 40: Thinking About The New Year.......And The OldUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-863564811307869766.post-30772080483564696182009-01-09T19:47:00.000-08:002009-01-09T19:47:00.000-08:00No, its okay. I understood that you weren't insult...No, its okay. I understood that you weren't insulting. <BR/><BR/>It's just sad to know that while my country is trying to boast itself as a modern and sophisticated country, it still failed to practice freedom in full length. <BR/><BR/>Then again, I should not be surprised as it is tied strongly to religions and cultures. Again, pity.<BR/><BR/>Just like you, I also hope that someday we can be who we are without the need to cloak ourselves. <BR/><BR/>Best wishes for 2009. I hope things will get better for all of us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-863564811307869766.post-45239905552665557622009-01-06T17:28:00.000-08:002009-01-06T17:28:00.000-08:00JJ,I meant no insult to you or Malaysia. I know yo...JJ,<BR/>I meant no insult to you or Malaysia. I know your country is sophisticated, I did not mean to imply it was not. Ours is also supposed to be sophisticated and yet there are things here that as citizens, we are not proud of, and there is a movement to make being gay illegal where we can be sent to therapy camps.... It isn't just marriage that the anti gay agenda wants. <BR/>Right now they are just too extreme to speak out, though some post it on the internet.<BR/>I hope that someday we can all just be who we are, and as long as we do not hurt others, are allowed to finally have most of the world understand that we are very ordinary people with the same needs and wants as anyone else, and that we are created this way. One day I would like to be looked at in the same way I am being left handed, I just am.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15218800704861183541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-863564811307869766.post-70088640145215795422009-01-05T23:57:00.000-08:002009-01-05T23:57:00.000-08:00Well it's a long story. But to make it short and l...Well it's a long story. But to make it short and less dramatic, my little brother is not the one in my family who actually knows that I'm gay. My whole family knows that I'm gay (at one point) but they are all in denial. <BR/><BR/>It broke my mother's heart so bad when she found out about it. She cried. My father kept silent for few weeks. It was the darkest moment in my entire life. I was torn to pieces.<BR/><BR/>I begged at my mother for an apology and told her that I will 'stop' completely. <BR/><BR/>Years passed by and my parents have forgotten about it. They think that I have cured myself. They think I am straight now. Currently I'm in stealth mode.<BR/><BR/>I haven't spoke to my little bro for 6 years now. 14 years with my big brother. <BR/><BR/>My country is a very sophisticated modern country but in the end, we are still tied strongly to multi religions and cultures. Pity. <BR/><BR/>But yes, leaving my country seems to be the only option that I have if I would like to be out and live happily as who I truly am. I'm considering to move out in the future.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-863564811307869766.post-26699886058674285282009-01-05T14:32:00.000-08:002009-01-05T14:32:00.000-08:00Hi JJ,I viewed your blog before writing so I might...Hi JJ,<BR/>I viewed your blog before writing so I might understand how to write to you. First of all congratulations on the weight loss! That is fantastic and so worth it. You look great in the pictures.<BR/>I see that you live and work in Malaysia.<BR/>I understand what you mean that it is dangerous for you to come out. It is against the law for anyone to be gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered where you live. (I know you know that, but many who read this may not know.) <BR/>It is something that for now in the United States we do not have to worry about. There are some people here working to make it illegal again however.<BR/>OK, JJ, unless the laws in your country are changed, it would remain too dangerous for you to come out ever. I do so hate to say this, but you would know this is true. You came out (or were found out) to your brother and saw his reaction, I honestly cannot suggest you come out to anyone else. If you have the rest of your family around, is it possible they will want to know why he has reacted the way he has? <BR/>JJ, it is very hard to live a double life as I am sure you already know. Would leaving your country be an option? That would be a very hard choice. But unless there is an organization working towards civil rights for gays in your country, you may have to either stay in the closet forever, or move to a more open country.<BR/>You may know other gays who are older, and may have some ideas for you on how they handle it.<BR/>Either way JJ, my heart is breaking for you, and you are in my prayers, as are all the LGBT people who face prison or death for who they are.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15218800704861183541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-863564811307869766.post-8784549770573679182009-01-05T10:32:00.000-08:002009-01-05T10:32:00.000-08:00I'm still trying to figure out on how to come out ...I'm still trying to figure out on how to come out in the future. I just can't be out right now. It is too risky and dangerous.<BR/><BR/>What makes it truly difficult is I come from a religious background family.<BR/><BR/>I have completely lost my little brother in the process of being who I am. He despise me with all his heart now. He can't even stand sitting in the same room with me anymore.<BR/><BR/>But enough with my melodramatic rant and drama.<BR/><BR/>I wish the best for you and your entire family.<BR/><BR/>Have a great new year!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-863564811307869766.post-61130958233235950742008-12-30T19:03:00.000-08:002008-12-30T19:03:00.000-08:00Yes Baby!! You are right! I love #1!! I just wa...Yes Baby!! You are right! I love #1!! I just want you to be as healthy as you can be; and actually number 1 goes right along with #2 and #3!! In fact, I think we should strive to lose those extra pounds together...well together from a distance; it would be really easy to lose them if we were always together!!! LOL! I am so very proud of you for everything you have accomplished this year. So many obstacles have been thrown your way and you have worked your way through them one at a time.<BR/>I can't wait until I'm in your arms again in just a little over a month!!! Kissing you, touching you whenever I want...just talking to you face to face!!<BR/>It has been a wonderful year for us! I love the closeness I feel to you! I never thought I would feel this amazing love that we have in my life; but we found it together!Lorriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15483481687902641515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-863564811307869766.post-61743165189357942572008-12-30T18:16:00.000-08:002008-12-30T18:16:00.000-08:00Of all my family members, my brother seems to be h...Of all my family members, my brother seems to be having the most trouble with it, as well. Happy New Year to you and Lorrie!Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01933458300158572939noreply@blogger.com